“Choose your top 3, then sprinkle in the rest with grace.”
Start With Prayer:
Dear God, please help me to hear you, and understand your message for me.
During His time on earth, Jesus traveled around preaching and healing people. It was very common back in His day, for people to invite travelers into their homes to eat a meal, rest, and even stay for the night. Today’s story picks up with Jesus and His disciples accepting just such an invitation.
“38 As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. 39 She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. 40 But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”
41 “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things,42 but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”
What’s the point?:
Can’t You Just Picture It?:
Here poor Martha is running ragged, trying her best to impress their guest … I mean, it was Jesus after all!
Then, she looks over and her co-host, Mary, is just kicked back and enjoying a lovely time.
Ugh, the nerve, right?!?
But … Jesus Doesn’t Play By Our Rules:
While I’m sure He was grateful for the hospitality, Jesus just isn’t impressed with the things that we put such a high emphasis on. He is concerned with being with us … He wants you to sit down on the couch, carving out a little time to be with Him, regardless of the mess you had to climb over in order to make it to the couch.
If Jesus says “No housework,” Then, Please, Keep Going:
Jesus looks down at us, stressed to death from trying to be all the things to all the people and says, “Christine, Christine … you are worried and upset about many things. But truly only few are needed!”
You see, the thing is, God designed each of us. He knows our gifts, talents, AND our limitations! He knows that we have got to first prioritize a relationship with Him, so that we’re fueled to do our work … BUT, ALSO …. He says, we’re not called to do it all.
Well .. Where’s This Pressure I Feel To Be Good At Everything Come From Then?:
Our society! Culture dictates that we’re supposed to be this Suzy Homemaker, DIY-Master, Mom-of-the Year, Rockstar Employee, Dedicated Wife, and Always-There-For-You Friend all wrapped in one skinny, beautiful package!
And that’s just not possible, friends … allow Jesus to set you free from whatever impossible standards you’re suffering under.
What does all of this mean to me/how can I apply that to my life today?
I have more Pinterest Fails than successes.
I couldn’t cook tasty food that also looks presentable to save my life.
And I may be a super organized neat freak, BUT I live with 3 boys who are NOT, and so, some days, I throw in the towel and choose NOT to fight the battle.
And here’s the thing …
Jesus doesn’t care, so I’m learning not to care either!
As a teacher, turned work at home mommy, turned work out of the home mommy, turned stay at home mommy and now “build a nonprofit with a crazy baby at home mommy” … I had to learn to get over the guilt, to remove the pressure … to, as Jesus said, “choose the better thing.”
We all wear many hats, but we can’t wear all the hats at the same time.
I read once that we only get 100% … that means you have to divide it up, you can’t give 100% everywhere you go.
It’s about CHOICE, BALANCE, and GRACE!
While I’m a wife, mom, author, Elder at church, friend, sister, daughter, philanthropist, study leader etc. I had to pick my top 3 to balance most often, and then sprinkle in the rest with GRACE.
I am a wife, mom, and author.
Those are the top 3 I CHOOSE to focus on.
Each day, I look at my schedule and I literally assign blocks of time to each role.
This planning model, seeing everything planned out on paper, works for me and my OCD self. It gives me the freedom to let go of the guilt.
Does that mean if my husband comes in and wants to have a conversation at 8:00 am, I stick my hand up and say, “Sorry, babe, I’m a mommy right now, no time for you!” No … because that’s where grace comes in.
If my child needs something during “writer,” time, by all means I’ll be there. BUT, once he’s happy with toys on the floor, I refuse to let myself feel guilty for turning back to my computer, because it’s my writing time.
No matter how you splice up the time, get in the habit of looking at your schedule each day and assessing whether or not you are giving adequate time to your top 3, then be sure to give yourself plenty of grace!
Free yourself from the pressure of doing it all at the same time, and accept His gift of grace.