“We Want … Friendship” 

The Pour Out:

Pour it ALL out to God. Take a moment to clear the clutter, by letting go of all those wandering thoughts (the grocery list or to do list items that won’t stop distracting you) … AND … your prayer needs and concerns.)

The Beans:

The Background:

King Solomon is credited as being one of the wisest people in History. He compiled many of his thoughts in the book of Proverbs as he pondered the meaning of life.

The Verse:

Proverbs 27:9

Just as lotions and fragrance give sensual delight,
    a sweet friendship refreshes the soul.” MSG

The Fill:

What’s the point for YOU?:

  • What word or phrase from the verse above popped out to you?

Read the verse a second time and ask yourself:

  • What could this word or phrase be speaking to in your life? (What situation, struggle, relationship, or decision)

The Steam:

What does all of this mean to me/how can I apply that to my life today?

The Bible is full of verses telling us to cherish friendships, to love others, to lean on one another, and so much more. So, we know that God created us to yearn for relationships.

And if the Bible isn’t enough to convince you that you were designed to NEED relationships … science has proven that human contact is vitally important for the proper development of human-beings.

So whether you consider yourself an introvert or extrovert, we ALL have it deep within our DNA to desire relationships.


For one, God designed us this way, so that we’d desire a relationship with Him, and understand how to have one. AND, two, so that He could use us to help each other.

As you hug someone having a rough day, Jesus is able to wrap His arms around them.

As you listen and offer sound advice, Jesus is able to speak words of encouragement to a soul that needs it desperately.

He uses our relationships to bless us all the time!

So, here are two pieces of advice for establishing these needed friendships.

1 – Picking the “right,” friends is still just as important now, as it was in Middle School.

This does NOT mean that you can only be friends with people who view the world the way you do. You shouldn’t limit friendships with anyone in anyway ….

BUT … What I’m saying is, for those few, for those super close friends that you lean on and go to for advice, you just want to be sure that you’re picking people who genuinely care for you, and believe in the same things you do, so that you know you’re getting the support you need.

2 – TIME! I get it! We all face busy seasons of life where friendships seem like the least important thing in our lives. But, after everything I’ve just shared, we’ve got to realize that they’re vitally important to our overall health, so we might just have to get creative in how to make the time for them.

I’m in a season with a child who naps on a schedule that is different from EVERY. OTHER. PERSON. I. KNOW!!!!!!! (Can you tell this is difficult for me?) … so I get it completely!

Try getting together at night, or in the mornings. Multi-task – invite a girlfriend to go to lunch with your you and your kids, to workout with you, or even come and sip wine while you cook dinner!

And when all else fails, there is always technology! I have recently developed a very meaningful/helpful/deep friendship with someone all over text messages. We joke about all the things we’re going to have to cover when we finally find the time to sit down for coffee one day!

And 3rd (sorry I lied about there only being 2) … Sometimes you have to be the friend first, to find the friend you need.

Your Task for Today:

Text, call, email, or even meet face to face with a friend. Start by asking how they’re doing, and then genuinely listen for the answer.

The Transition:

Transitioning from quiet time back into real life can be tricky. We want to take the lesson we’ve just learned, and the peaceful feeling we now have, with us throughout the rest of our day.


List “small” blessings from the past 24 hours.

List small things, because when you only list the big things – you only SEE the big things. Thinking back on a few small blessings each day, helps us develop a habit of actually looking for God in our day to day realities. And if you’re writing them down, then you’ll have hard proof that God truly is always with you.

*This could be anything. A few examples are: “you were blessed with a hug from your child, the weather was especially warm and delightful, or a smile from a stranger on the street.


List positive affirmations about yourself/life:

Take whatever was laid on your heart and write it in the form of an affirmation:

If you simply felt peaceful today, write, “I WILL remain peaceful today.”

If you are still trying to understand a certain message, write, “I WILL keep searching and remember that God WILL reveal His answer to me.”

Or list, “I AM worth it.” “God DOES love me.” “I WILL make that change.”

**Now go about your day, peaceful and affirmed.**